Stale Christians
Why is it that only some of the people in the church do MOST of the work? I don’t understand why more people do not help out with things. Everyone has a calling, even if it is to clean the church. We will be having Bible School here soon for the kiddos & it seems like it’s the same few people volunteering every year. Literally there’s about 7 people who help out, & a church that has about 60-70 people on a Sunday. Who knows, maybe I am just doing too much. It seems like I am the one who is scheduling everything for the kids, working on the website, coming up with ideas, & I also teach Sunday School. I don’t think people realize that it’s not easy trying to run VBS with a short staff. I don’t know how to get people motivated to help out, any suggestions? Also, what can I do to convince the older people that the younger people should have a voice too? Our church is very old fashioned & pretty much just Southern Gospel music. The younger peole are not listening to Southern Gospel any longer, & they are not getting blessed by it like the older generations. I would like to bring some younger bands to sing, but I am constantly getting rejected on my ideas. A friend of mine who even sings some Southern Gospel was not allowed to come sing at our church because he has spiked hair! That makes me angry, but I know that we’re not supposed to play along with anything that will cause division in the church. So how do we compromise on this? Our church has been around since the early 1800′s, so I know it is deeply rooted. I also know that if we don’t get more young people in the church doors will close eventually.
Add a comment May 22, 2010
Oops..forgot about this Blog…now I am updating!
Well, it’s been 2 years since my last post! I forgot about this blog, so I figured I would update it. Things are a bit better now, but my husband is still the same. I am growing in my walk with Christ, but not everyone can tell that he is. I try to do good, but he is the only person who can cause me to lose my cool! I am learning every day though, & trying to do things differently. I tried the giving him sex just to shut him up thing, but it doesn’t last. He gets mean the very next day at times. If he doesn’t get sex he acts like a complete moron & jerk. I have now learned to just walk away from him when he starts fights, or leave. It doesn’t help that he is the type that will follow me around just trying to tick me off though. We have our good days & we have our bad days. So far I am focusing on the good ones. I do know that if I had it to do all over again I would not have married him. BUT, I did, & I take my vow before God very seriously. I know his attitude will change soon, and so will his sex drive. It’s not like we NEVER have sex, I mean we usually have sex once a week. I think that is pretty good, compared to others who only have it once a month or longer! I don’t feel it’s the quantity, but the quality. I am trying to get in shape lately, so it is making me feel better about myself, & I am not as tired. The main problem right now is stress of building a new house, & our kids…our youngest will be 2 soon..so that’s not easy! We do need to get away & have some time just to ourselves sometime though, it’s just hard finding a babysitter for overnight. I know this too shall pass, & our kids will be grown before we know it. I love my husband, but I do not like him sometimes. I know he feels the same way. I’m hanging in there, so we’ll see what the future brings!
Add a comment May 22, 2010
Introduction
Let me introduce myself. I am a Christian/Wife/Sunday School Teacher/Stay-at-home Mom of 3. I live in Southern Ohio, out in the country. I have 3 dogs, 2 areAkitas, 1 is a German Shep. mix. I have 3 cats, all are black, one is a bobtail. I am very Blessed, and have changed dramatically over the years. I’m dealing with some stress right now, so I figured this may be a good way to help me get through the tough times. I will post each of the issues I am dealing with at the moment at another time. I hope this can help someone out there. God Bless.
Add a comment April 7, 2009
Fighting with husband over sex
I know most Christian women don’t like to talk about sex, but I think it’s important that we do (in an appropriate manner) so that it might be helpful to someone who may be experiencing the same problems.
My husband and I constantly fight over sex. He wants it too often, and I’d rather sleep! We are both 29 years old, and we have 3 children. I’m a stay-at-home mom, so I’m sure there’s someone out there who can relate to this.
I never have had much of a sex drive, so it’s not that I’m not attracted to my husband. I just feel like it’s another chore, and I hate doing chores! It seems like I am always wore out when he wants it, and I am desperately trying to figure things out. I know men need sex, it’s a known fact. It’s their way of feeling wanted, and secure. That’s how they express their love. I don’t know why God made us so different! I also know that God meant for married people to have sex, and to do so often. My problem is that I feel like my husband does not go out of his way to do things for me, so why should I go out of my way to “do” him? I know, I know…. the Bible says we should not deprive each other of ourselves, but how do I actually apply it without feeling resentful? Any ideas?
I am very thankful that I have a husband that works, but I have a job too, and mine NEVER ends. Why is it so hard for a man to help watch the kids every now & then? He seems to think it’s ok for me to haul them everywhere I go, but he can’t even volunteer to take them anywhere with him so I can get a break too.
Of course he uses the excuse that since we aren’t having much sex that I have to take the kids with me because he doesn’t trust me….HMPH! If I wanted another man I would leave! I love my husband, and would never do that to him. Why doesn’t he get it?
On the other hand, I know that men are pretty simple to figure out.. and to please. If I give him sex I can pretty much do whatever I want.. for about a day…
I am so freakin’ stubborn that it’s NOT funny… It says alot if I give in to just doing it out of love, and having Faith that my reward will come soon enough. I just want him to help out around the house a little bit, and to watch the kids so I can have a little “ME” time, even if it’s just to go grocery shopping. Does anyone out there understand me? Has anyone ever been through this? Please help me!
2 comments April 6, 2009
Tags: fighting over sex, help with sex life, husband wants sex too often, husband won't help out with the kids, married couple sex problems, my husband wants sex and I don't, no sex drive
Convictions
The biggest issue I am having right now is trying to do what God wants me to do. I try to live right, but when you come from the background I came from it’s REALLY hard. I was not raised in church, but I did attend the local VBS’s and sometimes Sunday School. I think it was more of a babysitter type deal than my parents actually caring if I learned anything or not. I know my Mom always believed in God, but didn’t live right. My Dad has always been an Atheist for the most part.
My family likes to laugh about how I used to carry a Bible around and tell everyone what they were doing wrong. About how I would wear long skirts & turtlenecks, even in the Summer. A preacher told me it was the Holy Spirit working in me even as a child. Either way, it’s funny how I’ve picked that habit back up again… still driving my family nuts..LOL
When I was a teenager I started to doubt the existance of God, even experimented with Wicca (witchcraft). It never worked for me, and I just felt pretty silly for believing in it. I know it can be a serious matter, but for the most part it’s pathetic.
I was Saved shortly after marrying my husband, and have never been the same since! I don’t remember the date, but I was pregnant with my 2nd child, so it was in 2004. I was watching a woman preacher on tv by the name of Joyce Meyer. I had never been impacted by a preacher before, and I was always quick to change the channel when one came on. There was just something about her that I connected with, and I have been a big fan of hers ever since! People can say what they want about woman preachers, but I know that she helped lead me to Jesus, and that’s all that matters to me. I will get into that subject another time.
God is dealing with me in a couple of different ways:
1. cussing
2. fighting with my husband
3. music & television
Those are my current convictions. I grew up in a family that every other word was a cuss word, and it’s very hard to break that habit. I do fine until something ticks me off, usually my husband. That’s where my 2nd one comes in. My husband & I butt heads CONSTANTLY. I have a hard time with the husband being the “head of the household” because my Mom was always pretty much the dominant figure in our home. I can understand why God made this rule, but I also understand that the husband MUST be a GODLY man. My husband is Saved, but he falls away from God quite often. He skips church alot, and he is surrounded by negative influences at work. We fight over power, money, & sex most of the time. My 3rd conviction has to do with music & media. I used to listen to some pretty vulgar music, and watch nasty things. I have improved the most in this category, but I still have a good way to go. My favorite music is now Gospel! I rarely watch things that are inappropriate, but I do have to admit I love my soaps, and Desperate Housewives! My fave soap is One Life To Live, and I’ve been watching it since I was a little girl. Speaking of that..
I will be 30 in a couple of weeks! Some of my old friends have asked me if I was going out or anything…they should know better than that since I haven’t been out in a LONG time! I don’t know what I will do to celebrate, but it is a little bit depressing. I never wanted to grow older than 20, let alone 30! I hear the 30′s are a great time for women though, and I am looking forward to it! Till next time…God Bless.
Add a comment April 6, 2009
Tags: christian mom, christian mother, convictions, fighting over money, fighting over power, fighting over sex, fighting with husband, joyce meyer, marital issues, saved, testimony, turning 30
